Two Transgender Definitions
Passing: Presenting yourself in such a manner that people you encounter in your day-to-day life don't realize that your current sex doesn't match the one you were assigned at birth; being recognized as the gender with which you identify.
I don't have any real interest in living stealth, but the lack of passing wears on me. The idea of spending several more years (possibly all of them) being called "ma'am," and even "ladies" when I'm in the company of a woman, flat-out exhausts me sometimes. The only thing harder would be continuing to live a lie.